Hey there! Renée here, your friendly gender-affirming voice teacher. Let’s look into a topic that’s close to the heart of many folks embarking on the journey of finding their true voice: confidence. Whether you’re a seasoned practitioner or just dipping your toes into the waters of vocal transformation, feeling confident while using your new voice can be a real struggle. But fear not, my friends, because I’ve got some nuggets of wisdom to share that might just help you strut your stuff with newfound assurance.

Embracing the Journey: Fake It Till You Make It

First off, let’s talk about the age-old adage of "fake it till you make it." When it comes to confidence, a little bit of acting can go a long way. Even if you’re not feeling 100% confident in your new voice, pretending like you are can still yield benefits. Think of it as a rehearsal for the real deal. Eventually, as you continue to hone your voice, that feigned confidence will morph into the actual confidence.

Fact #1: Your Voice Doesn't Sound "Fake" to Strangers

One of the biggest hurdles many people face is the perception that their new voice sounds "fake" or "weird." But here’s the thing: to strangers, your voice is just your voice. They don’t have preconceived notions of how you should sound. Sure, it might sound different to you because you’re comparing it to your old voice, but to others, it’s simply the sound that accompanies your presence. So, don’t sweat it if your voice doesn’t sound like what you’re used to. Embrace the uniqueness!

Fact #2: Most People Are Too Wrapped Up in Their Own Worlds

Here’s a little reality check: while you might be hyper-aware of how you sound, most people you encounter are too busy thinking about themselves to give your voice a second thought. Seriously, think about it. When was the last time you met someone and immediately fixated on the nuances of their speech? Probably never, right? People have their own lives, concerns, and to-do lists occupying their minds. So, take comfort in the fact that you’re not under a microscope.

Fact #3: Judgements Fade Away Faster Than You Think

Now, let’s address the elephant in the room: judgment. Sure, there might be instances where someone takes notice of your voice and forms an opinion. But here’s the kicker: their passing observation doesn’t define you. Maybe they find your voice intriguing or unfamiliar, but that doesn’t automatically equate to them clocking you as trans. Remember, cis folks aren’t exactly experts at recognizing trans individuals. So, even if someone does cast a fleeting judgment, it’s just that—fleeting. Chances are, they’ll move on with their day as fast as they passed that judgment.

The Journey to Self-Acceptance: A Marathon, Not a Sprint

Finding confidence in your voice is a journey—a marathon, not a sprint. It takes time, patience, and a whole lot of self-love. So, the next time you find yourself battling those pesky self-conscious thoughts, take a deep breath and remember these truths. You are worthy, you are valid, and your voice deserves to be heard.

Closing Thoughts: Confidence Is Key

So, there you have it—three little nuggets of wisdom to tuck into your pocket as you navigate the world with your newfound voice. The next time you find yourself battling those pesky self-conscious thoughts, just remember these truths. Until next time, keep speaking your truth and owning your voice!